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Allan Herem

Allan Herem, LMFT

Therapist in California

Calm, practical therapy for self esteem and relationships

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23 years of experience listed

LMFT professional credentials

English languages

  • 23 years experience
  • California LMFT
  • Focus on self esteem

About Allan

Allan Herem is a California licensed marriage and family therapist with 23 years of clinical experience. He helps people manage stress, anxiety, low self esteem, depression, and relationship and parenting concerns. He speaks English and provides direct, practical support for people trying to feel more confident and connected.

Allan focuses on understanding how early attachments and family patterns shape current feelings and choices. He listens for patterns of guilt, shame, abandonment, and emptiness, then helps people learn clearer communication and healthier boundaries. Sessions aim to reduce reactive behavior and build steady coping skills that carry into daily life.

His style is straightforward and compassionate. He works in a collaborative way, asking questions, offering reflections, and suggesting small experiments clients can try between sessions. Therapy often includes looking at family of origin issues, commitment and control struggles, and the emotions that come up around forgiveness and infidelity.

Over two decades in practice have allowed him to help people facing caregiver stress, fatherhood issues, and separation or divorce concerns. He uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques and tailors interventions to each person’s needs. People leave sessions with clearer next steps they can try at home.

To begin, clients use the site’s continue button on this profile, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability. Fees vary with location and use a cancellable subscription model.

How evidence-based techniques shape online work

Allan draws on evidence-based therapeutic techniques that focus on relationships and emotions. One common approach looks at attachment patterns and how early relationships affect current behavior; this helps when feelings of abandonment, emptiness, or trust issues come up. Another useful approach targets communication skills and behavior change, offering concrete exercises to practice clearer speaking and steadier reactions in everyday interactions.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Allan will work with each person to identify goals, try techniques, and notice what helps. Over time the approach can shift to match changing needs and progress, with therapist and client deciding together which methods fit best.

Confirm the practice’s available session options before scheduling, since formats are not listed in the biography. Online therapy can make it easier to fit sessions into busy lives by removing travel time and allowing appointments during work breaks or between obligations. It can also let conversations continue across weeks when immediate in-person visits aren’t practical, helping people keep momentum while they build new skills.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesParenting issuesSelf esteemDepression

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAttachment issuesCaregiver issues and stressCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesDivorce and separationEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMood disordersSelf-loveSocial anxiety and phobiaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Experience

23+ years

Credentials

California

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

What issues does Allan help with?

He works with stress, anxiety, depression, self esteem, relationship and parenting concerns. Additional focus areas include attachment, abandonment, caregiver stress, infidelity, and family of origin problems.

How would you describe his therapy style?

Sessions are practical and collaborative, with straightforward conversation and suggested exercises. The aim is to build clearer communication and steady coping skills.

How much clinical experience does he have?

He has 23 years of experience supporting adults through personal, relational, and parenting challenges.

What credentials and region apply?

He is a California LMFT, which stands for licensed marriage and family therapist, and practices in California.

Which languages are supported?

Sessions are offered in English.

What session formats are available?

The biography does not specify session formats. Please confirm current session options before booking.

How are fees handled?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability, and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

How do I start therapy?

Click the continue button on this profile, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule based on therapist availability.

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