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Richard Alongi

Richard Alongi, LMFT

Therapist in California

Experienced therapist focused on confidence and relationships

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36 years of experience listed

LMFT professional credentials

English languages

  • Self esteem support
  • Relationship focus
  • Practical tools

About Richard

Richard Alongi is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in California who focuses on improving self esteem, relationships, and coping skills. He speaks plainly and treats people with respect, sensitivity, and compassion. He encourages anyone feeling stuck to take the first step toward getting help and tailors sessions to each person's needs.

With 36 years of experience, he has worked with a wide range of concerns including addictions, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, stress, anxiety, grief, anger, and depression. He also addresses career concerns, coaching, compassion fatigue, and challenges linked to ADHD. His practice includes attention to abandonment, attachment issues, codependency, and relationship patterns that leave people feeling empty or disconnected.

Richard uses approaches drawn from attachment-based work, client-centered methods, emotionally-focused therapy, Imago relationship ideas, and Jungian perspectives. In sessions he listens first, then helps people notice patterns in feelings and behavior. He aims to build clearer self-awareness and stronger emotional connection with others.

Sessions are shaped around whatever the individual needs most - skill-building, processing painful memories, or improving intimacy and communication. He emphasizes practical steps people can try between meetings and checks progress together. The goal is to help people gain more confidence, steadier mood, and better ways to handle hard moments.

People who want a calm, experienced therapist who personalizes care may find his approach helpful. Prospective clients should use the site sign-up flow to begin the matching process and schedule a time to meet.

How his approaches translate to online work

Richard commonly uses attachment-based ideas that look at how early relationships shape present feelings and behavior; this helps with trust, commitment issues, and patterns that hurt self esteem. He also uses client-centered methods that prioritize the person's own goals and pace, offering a respectful, accepting stance that supports self-confidence. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is another influence; it focuses on identifying and reshaping emotional responses to improve connection and reduce anxiety and grief.

Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what feels most useful, and then adjust methods as therapy moves forward. That means trying different ways of working until something fits the client's needs and comfort level.

Session logistics should be confirmed before booking since the biography does not list specific online formats. Online therapy can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy life, shorten commute time, and allow quicker check-ins between meetings. It can also offer options for people who prefer not to use video or who need sessions that fit a work break or a tight schedule. Please confirm the current session formats when you schedule.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

AddictionsRelationship issuesTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issuesSelf esteem

Also works with

Stress, AnxietyGriefAnger managementCareer difficultiesDepressionCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAging and geriatric issuesAttachment issuesAvoidant personalityBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureCaregiver issues and stressCo-morbidityCodependencyCommitment issuesControl issuesDependent personalityDissociationDivorce and separationDrug and alcohol addictionEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFatherhood issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMood disordersNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPost-traumatic stressPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Self-loveSex addictionSexual dysfunctionSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaWomen's issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyEmotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Imago Relationship TherapyJungian TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingPsychodynamic TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

36+ years

Credentials

California

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does this therapist help with?

He works with many concerns such as addictions, relationship and intimacy issues, trauma and abuse, stress, anxiety, grief, anger, depression, and self esteem.

What is the general therapy style or approach?

His style is collaborative and person-centered, emphasizing listening first and then shaping the work to each person. He draws on attachment-based ideas and emotionally-focused approaches alongside client-centered methods.

How long has he been practicing?

He has 36 years of professional experience working with a wide range of emotional and relational concerns.

Where is he licensed and located?

He is licensed in California as an LMFT, which stands for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and his practice is based in California.

Which languages are supported for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English.

Can people outside the United States work with him?

International clients are not currently accepted.

How does pricing work for sessions?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability, and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

What is the first step to begin therapy?

Click the continue button on this profile, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule according to the therapist's availability.

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